Being in love with what you have known

Our brain quite often uses mechanisms to regulate and channel our feelings and emotions, which are sometimes very intense. These are always present and are part of human life and existence. They lead to a classic pattern consisting of directing us towards choices, tastes, and desires that are known, examined, carefully processed and analyzed, and pose no danger or disorder in the unfolding of everyday events and this classic pattern.

The brain hardly accepts the unknown, hence the expression "Comfort Zone."

This translates to: being programmed to ensure our survival, the brain considers all foreign information, feelings, and emotions that do not belong to a normal routine or the classic pattern as a potential danger to us. It analyzes and interprets our desires, choices, and sensations of this world, which is not a good thing, given that our vision of reality is obstructed by a sometimes false perception, influenced by a constant need for survival and existence. [It aims] to protect us from danger, which is very often nothing other than what we ignore or what is unknown to us.

Survival Mechanisms

Instinct and rationality are survival mechanisms that the brain uses, all within a context, a set of "Routines."

A routine is a mechanical, thoughtless habit that results from a succession of constantly repeated actions. It is a habit of acting or thinking that has become mechanical. Routine can be considered an obstacle to progress. It is acquired through long habit, through long practice, rather than through the help of study and rules (www.larousse.fr).

As stated above, routine is an obstacle to progress, but above all, a formidable enemy, associated with a pre-defined survival system, because this system can be corrupted by erroneous or misinterpreted information, or influenced by external elements that challenge any perception of an exact reality.

Being in Love with What We Have Known

Love is one of the most complex feelings that humans have to experience and feel.

An irrational, disordered, and unreal feeling (for those who do not believe in it), which makes it a rather disturbing, problematic, and completely opposite external element to the survival system.

To remedy this, the brain will capture memories of joy, happiness, and feelings of well-being, just as it can also capture the opposite and associate it with a certain feeling of familiarity, of the known, in order to be able to operate within its field of expertise and fully use its potential and mechanisms (rationality, instinct). But above all, instinct, which is an innate tendency towards determined actions.

This feeling of familiarity constitutes a major problem given that every system has its flaws, particularly the brain (conscious, unconscious, and subconscious) which cannot differentiate true from false.

Any poorly managed or misinterpreted emotion or feeling can change our perception of reality, giving way to the imaginary and the blurred.

So, we are sometimes just in love, or still in love with what has been, what we have known, not what is truly there. We are often in love with what is familiar to us, what we know.

Past memories, feelings we have known, processed, and analyzed in order to be immediately recognized when they reappear. We are victims of our own illusion.